When a “slave” gets jealous and sticks his nose in his Mistress’s sexual affairs

Jealousy in the BDSM Community between submissives is common, and very much frowned upon, due to some Masters/Mistresses/Owners having more than one sub in their “Stable”. This can cause strife between the subs, as one believes that he/she is not getting enough attention or is not their Master/Mistress/Owner “considered” favorite or “Alpha”. I can tell you that I recently had to end an almost 4 year M/s relationship with a former sub who took it upon himself to overstep his “place” believing that it was his RIGHT to inquire about who his Mistress/Owner was sleeping with. The interesting part about all of this is that the subs have an age difference of about 10 years, one is Divorced and the other is MARRIED and the Mistress is YOUNGER than them both by 12-22 years Herself (IMO)!

Here is the story…

As a Dominant Female (I prefer the title “Mistress”) in the BDSM Lifestyle, I enjoy being served by two or more male subs in My “Stable” (I do not use the term “Harem” as it refers to female slaves and feels derogatory), and working with each one of them seperately ensures that each one gets My full attention when it comes to their personal preferences or fetishes and what I will allow them to feel and expereince. If sub one is into Toilet slavery, CBT, Bondage, and Crossdressing, he will be trained in those categories. If sub two is into CBT, Bondage, Humiliation, Forced Bi, and Anal Training, he will be trained in those areas as well. However, when sub one starts to get upset that he/she is not getting the same treatment as sub two, it can cause problems.

This was the case within My “Stable. Now don’t get Me wrong I was willing to train the sub one as well as the sub two together, but when the subs can not behave together in the same room, there becomes a problem. sub one accuses sub two of having sexual relations with their Mistress, as sub one came home from work to find both sub two and their Mistress relaxing in the bed together after they had a lengthy play session (with pictures taken and even a LIVE broadcast in one of the Chat websites that they are a affiliated). Not to mention, came into the apartment that sub one shared with his Mistress like he was missing out on something hence having scared both of them out of their wits (like he was the Police or someone’s significant other) causing them to jump out of the bed. sub one believed that he was the “Alpha” as he lived with their Mistress and Mistress allowed him to sleep in the bed next to Mistress, not to mention attempt to satisfy Mistress sexual desires (failing miserably).

Now, “Cooling down” after long sessions are necessary when some scenes last more than 30 mins, in My case sometimes 3+ hrs. So “petting” and comforting a sub after a long hard session soemtimes can lead up to the release of sexual “tension” that was built up. Especially if the Mistress, Myself included, has not taken care of that “itch” before play. Therefore when sub one comes in and sees sub two in bed with their Mistress, he decides to get upset and hence the relationship between Mistress and sub one begins to deteriorate to the point of where neither can speak, look at, nor be in the same room together without accusations flying.

Now, after a few months of sub one treating sub two like he is a piece of trash and sub two being the respectable one by not punching sub one in the face, you’d think that everything would calm down. No, it only got worse. sub one decides to confront sub two while both of them were out with their Mistress at a BDSM Play Party, while their Mistress’s back was turned and sub two was busy following Mistress’s explicit instructions on what to do with their “vanilla” clothing. sub two, being the better man, tried to explain to sub one again that nothing happened and that what he supposedly saw was not the case at all. sub one did not believe him, and informed him that he would be leaving so that “they” (being sub two and Mistress) can continue their “sexual” liasons without him interferring. sub two came directly to his Mistress and informed Her of the conversation and his reaction. As the Mistress, I could have shouted at sub one and embarrassed the hell out of him by whipping “a pound of flesh” off of him at the Play Party, however I chose to discuss things in a more civilized manner.

Believe Me, I should have taken the “pound of flesh”. There was nothing that I could say that would make sub one understand that he was wrong in his assumptions. So I spoke with another Female Dominant that I am very good friends with and We came up with a solution… I turned over Ownership of sub one to Her, because aparently what I was doing was not working and seeing as he began to listen to Her I figured that We could mutually benefit from sub one’s lack of obedience and She will train him thoroghly. So until sub one moves out, he was to stay and assist his former Mistress until She requested that he leave the premises. … So sub one leaves and moves into his own apartment not to far from his former Mistress.

sub two (now the current sub one) and Mistress are in the future working together to make their M/s relationship better by implementing new rules and will be travelling to other areas to meet new people… End of story.

The former sub one put his foot into his Mistress’s sexual affairs because he thought that he was entitled. This is not the case. Former sub one (come to find out is not a slave but a submissive) did not nor will not understand that his needs do not come before his Mistress. What She does to be sexually fulfilled and Who She has sex with are not his concern. The only concern that he should have is:

1) What will make his Mistress/Master/Owner happy?

2) What improvements can he accomplish in order to fulfill this need to serve Her?

3) If he is doing something wrong, how can he fix it?

[No one was physically hurt. Only a sub’s pride and ego were crushed beyond repair.] Actions may speak louder than words, however if there is not any trust in the Master’s/Mistress’s/Owner’s judgment/decisions on how He/She interacts with His/Her sub then the relationship will fall through the cracks. As the Mistress in this M/s relationship I see and understand where there were rules not carefully explained, nor feelings expressed. However, the learning experience as a result of this situation, will not happen again. If and when I do get another sub who desires to serve in My “Stable”, ALL involved will sit down and discuss in detail everything.

Am I Mistress Vengeance? Yes I am. Will there be jealousy between subs in My “Stable”? Yes, but it will be dealt with accordingly.